To The Mothers who Breastfeed,
I’m writing this to you because well, you deserve it, especially from someone who now exclusively breastfeeds their child, anywhere and anytime my child wants to, and I do it without a care in the world, same as you. Before I had my child I never understood the importance of breastfeeding, the bond it brings between a mother and child, the health benefits and so on. I was close minded and didn’t even realize it, here it goes I’m coming forward, I gave you a weird look, a puzzled stare, an unconscious reaction to you breastfeeding in public and I’m so sorry. Its not that I was against it, I just knew nothing about breastfeeding and my ignorance took over. I’m sorry.
I never knew much about mothers who breastfed their children. I was never really around any one who nursed their child. I grew up in a culture where I always saw someone using a bottle, and that bottle most likely had formula in it. I knew I wanted kids some day but never gave it much thought on how I would nourish them.
If I ever made you feel uncomfortable I’m sorry. I’m sorry for the long stare I might have gave you in the supermarket or in a restaurant. I’m sorry for being apart of the lame whisper community ” Why can’t she put a blanket over her baby?” I know why now. I completely understand. I was ignorant about motherhood and just how it is to be a parent in general. Im sorry about the constant judgment and questions from your friends and family, always wondering why you can’t cover up.
I tried the blanket, I tried covering up the best I could, and mama, I know you did as well. The baby is wrapping it around their neck waving their arms around, throwing the blanket to the ground, and you pick it up every time to place it back on their face where it becomes this never ending game, till you eventually break a sweat, and shout out “SCREW IT!” To any person wondering why we aren’t covering up, well, do you want a sheet over your head while you eat? didn’t think so.
I see my old self in strangers and it stings, that stare is so powerful it’s as if you can almost read their mind.
You think I’m disgusting, I’m wrong to have my breast out especially with your kids around, whats wrong with me right?
There’s nothing wrong with you, there is nothing wrong with a mother feeding her child. Children just as much as adults need to know that. Kids need to have a clue on what boobs are. Tell them hey, breast aren’t these secretive bad things to have. They’re under every women’s shirt and at times a mother will use them to feed her hungry child, even in the mall, and it is perfectly normal. That’s the talk I wish my parents had with me.
Unfortunately I didn’t get that talk, and a lot of people don’t, but its women like you. Brave women like you, that are here for a purpose to help someone like me understand, you’ve helped me grow, seeing you quickly pull out your breast, and bring your baby towards your nipple, while surrounded by un approving faces. You never stood up and went to the bathroom, you never cut the feeding short, you made sure your child got every drop they needed, you weren’t afraid, you did it for your baby. You provided for your child to the fullest, the best way you know how. You followed your instincts. You are amazing!
After I gave birth I was so anxious to nurse. The special moment when your baby is latching on for the first time, it feels magical you feel so powerful connecting with your newborn. A special bond that sadly people want to break.
I’m sorry if I was ever that person to you. You don’t deserve the stares, the whispers, and the questions on how long you’ll nurse.
Keep ignoring the continuous weird looks from strangers while you’re nursing, and think of me, and how I’ve changed, know that there is hope, the ignorance can fade.
I’m coming forth and being honest on my lack of knowledge on breastfeeding. I am so happy that motherhood became apart of my life’s plan. I’ve transformed to a more open minded and accepting person. I couldn’t have done that without women like you paving the way and standing up for the future generation of mothers, that have no idea they will end up in the same boat if this is the path they choose for your child.
Thank you for being a part of the voice that will help so many moms that are terrified to feed their child in public, you may not realize it but you’re spreading awareness, changing the view on how people look at mothers who breastfeed, helping those moms, so that they won’t feel the same way as you did and still do, because there will be a day when she has no option but to nurse her baby in public.
I’m so grateful to you, for teaching me that breastfeeding is normal, theres nothing more normal than nature, and we can’t help the way we women are designed. I hope you accept my apology, Ill keep standing up for you, for us.